WHY YOU GONNA
BE SO RUDE?
Bullying
in school has been around for a long time. According to U.S. Department of Education and by many
mental health professionals is unwanted physical or verbal aggression directed
at a specific person, repeated over a period, involves an imbalance of power,
and acts to exclude the victim from a group. Bullying can occur in various ways
and anyone can become the target of bullying, including students in the school.
It may include physical violence, such as kicking, hitting or hair
ripping. It is further characterized by
the bully repeatedly using the higher social status they have over the victim
to exert power and to hurt the victim. It may just as well involve harassment,
name-calling, gossiping, outing, rumor spreading, threats, or other forms of
intimidation expand from being done in person or by phone to the use of emails,
chat rooms, blogs, or other social media over the Internet. Nowadays, it is so important to find the
causes students bullying their friends at school because being bullied is not
easy.
What
is the pattern of behavior and values shared by a family, whether the behavior
was polite and respectful, obeys and understand each other, or behaviors like
swearing, comparing and violence if it does not obtain what it children wants?
Well, that is how the values embedded in the minds of children at home and put
into effect are the values they embrace and express, both inside and outside
the home (can be both or even in one environment). Lack of involvement and
attention of parents to children who are bullies usually have a less healthy
parenting process from the surrounding environment, parents, and extended
family. In addition, bullying actors usually have a temperament that is
difficult to handle properly. As a result, it will encourage children to
imitate it to be practiced on their friends who are considered weak at school. A survey conducted by
the British Society of 10th-grade students in the UK said that around 1/7
students had been ignored by parents. The report was released by The University
of York, the Children's Society on Tuesday (11/29/2016). Researchers from the
University of York conducted a sample survey of around 2000 adolescents aged
12-15 years from 72 schools in the UK. These teens were asked about how their
parents behaved (treatment) every day. The results show that among these
adolescents, at least one in seven of them had experienced some form of neglect
by their parents. Behavior
in the form of neglect of parents in related surveys includes: Do not care when
the child moves outside, does not immediately pay attention when they fall ill,
is not interested in their education. cannot provide emotional support or
encouragement when they encounter problems. Sadly, parents should be
accustomed to giving positive feedback to children so that they are accustomed
to communicating well at home so that it will apply as long as the child is in
school.
The UNICEF
and Kominfo research released in 2014 released by 400 respondents (aged 10-19
years) in 17 provinces, also found children who were very vulnerable to being
victims of bullying. The study was conducted in 2011 and 2012 and involved a
sample representing 400 children and adolescents from urban and rural areas in
11 provinces. Furthermore, focus group discussions were held in Medan, Jakarta,
Yogyakarta, Makassar, Balikpapan, and Jayapura. The researchers conducted an
online survey in late 2012 and 2013 through Facebook and Kaskus. The study
revealed only the percentage of respondents arrested were oppressed, and among
them, 13 percent had been victims for the previous three months. Bullying
behavior is often also treated by students themselves as common events.
Students who will become seniors want a tradition to continue and show power,
revenge, jealousy or seeking popularity. Seniority that is misinterpreted and
used as an opportunity or reason for bullying against the junior does not stop
in a period. This is not uncommon as an unwritten rule that is passed down and
down to the next level. This is because the perpetrators feel that they have
been treated harshly and humiliated so that the perpetrators hold grudges and
irritations that will be ventured to weaker or junior people when they are
senior. The spirit of wanting to dominate the victim with physical power and
sexual attraction, namely the desire to show the strength that is owned so that
the victim does not dare to fight it. To increase the popularity of actors
among peers, namely the desire to show self-existence, seek attention and want
to be famous. Victims often feel that they deserve to be treated like that (bully)
so that the victim just silences this happening repeatedly to him. The
existence of peers who have a negative influence by spreading ideas (both
actively and passively) that bullying is not a big problem and is a natural
thing to do. According to Djwuta Ratna (2005) in his time, children had the
desire to no longer depend on their families and began to assess seeking
support and security from their peers. So bullying occurs because of demands
for conformity.
At least
but not least, with the development of technology, especially information
technology, such as the internet, television, etc., indirectly affects the
lives of its people. The influence given can be positive and negative. As an
example of the positive impact is the increase in knowledge and insight
possessed, networks are easily obtained, etc. While the example of the negative
impact is that many people no longer work/try hard to get something, tend to
want to get in an instant way and act in all ways to get what they want. In
this case, the most influential changes that occur in society, in general, are
television with a variety of shows offered, such as soap operas, soap operas,
comedy, cartoons, reality shows which mostly have a negative impact, especially
for the development of children and adolescents. Although there are several
television shows that have positive impacts, such as news, natural phenomena,
etc. Television and print media form a pattern of bullying behavior in terms of
the shows they display. According to Wilson, TV shows, films and other reading
materials can have negative behavioral effects such as; anti-social, low
sensitivity to violence, increasing fear of being victims of violence/bullying,
and learning aggressive behavior. Compass surveys (Saripah, 2006) showed that 56.9%
of children imitated the film scenes they watched, generally they imitated
their movements (64%) and their words (43%).
In sum, it is expected that the school can improve discipline in schools
and provide counseling to bullying actors. Teachers are expected to play an
active role in preventing the occurrence of bullying in schools, set a good
example, reduce acts of violence as punishment, provide information about
watching or television programs that are good to watch for students. Parents
are expected to guide children with exemplary teaching and example and not to
let children do things without parental supervision such as the use of
electronic media and mass media. Monitor children's development, especially
children's emotional and social development.
Hello avivah. I don't understand which part of your thesis statement.
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